Self Esteem and Confidence/ Hypnotherapy
The issue of our own self-esteem, and how we perceive it, is fundamental to the degree of satisfaction we feel regarding our 'place' in the world. We develop through childhood and beyond an understanding of where we 'ought to fit' in relation to other people, our peers, and our parents.
If we managed to absorb enough confidence-boosting through our formative years, then our self-esteem will be sufficiently robust for us to be resilient to the disappointments and blows that occur through life's normal experiences. However, if our required quota of ego-strengthening and boosting was for any reason unfulfilled, we are likely to be more vulnerable to these setbacks. We also learn both through direct and subliminal channels what our expectations of our adult lives should be. Whether or not we achieve this arbitrary position in the wide-world hierarchy again will have a massive impact on our perception of our self-worth, or self-esteem.
During our formative years, we also learn to accept the inner-voice that will accompany us throughout our lives. This inner-voice is constantly with us. It develops as an amalgam of our parents, teachers and authoritative adults, and is honed through our experiences of reward, punishment, encouragement, and criticism. When we have failed to live up to our own expectations, it will criticise and cajole us. When we have done something praiseworthy, it will congratulate us. However, if the critical voice develops too much power, it will continually scold and belittle us. It becomes less likely to respond to encouragement and positive affirmation, and will accentuate the negative; this is where the erosion of our self-esteem begins in earnest.
There are many ways of tackling this inner critic, but all start with the recognition and acknowledgement of its existence. We can then begin to understand more about how we constantly seem to strengthen it and reinforce it subconsciously. With this understanding, we can then move onto positive ways of negating its voice. The change in self-image and esteem that takes place once this process has begun can rapidly gather momentum, and with this change, comes a whole new way of looking at the world and our lives.
The key element to a successful outcome when embarking on self-change, and this is especially true of self-esteem issues, is the strength of the desire to change. Without this desire, and a truly positive commitment to change, simply nothing will happen. No therapy in the world can alter your self-image for you, but we can guide you and support you while you are engaging in the process.
Hypnowellness can provide a solid and supportive framework for you to work within whilst you are attempting to surmount these troublesome and distressing issues. You are welcome to contact me to book an initial consultation without charge or obligation to discuss this or any other conditions that are currently causing unhappiness in your life.